THINK HAPPY!

I was reading this amazing poster that I have pinned above my bed and I realised it is way too inspiriting to keep to myself.

So may this inspire you to pursue your dreams or simply make you smile. Enjoy!

Live your life

Live your life

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LIVE YOUR LIFE 

AND RISK IT ALL | TAKE CHANCES | TAKE THE FALL

LOVE WHAT YOU DO | DO WHAT YOU LOVE

SMILE!

IF YOU CAN IMAGINE IT YOU CAN ACHIEVE IT, IF YOU CAN DREAM IT YOU CAN BECOME IT 

BE BOLD AND COURAGEOUS WHEN YOU LOOK BACK ON LIFE YOU’LL REGRET THE THINGS YOU DIDN’T DO MORE THAN THE ONES YOU DID

DREAM BIG!

BE GRATEFUL | GIVE LOVE | LAUGH LOTS

TO BE INSPIRED IS GREAT TO INSPIRE IS INCREDIBLE 

THERE’S JUST ONE LIFE TO LIVE AND NO TIME TO WASTE 

FEAR LESS HOPE MORE HATE LESS LOVE MORE AND GOOD THINGS WILL BE YOURS

TAKE CHANCES!

LIVE YOUR DREAM AND WEAR YOUR PASSION 

STAY HAPPY AND BE POSITIVE 

BELIVE THAT ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE 

THINK HAPPY!

LIVE WELL LAUGH OFTEN LOVE ALWAYS 

ALWAYS CHALLENGE YOURSELF 

LIFE ISN’T ABOUT WAITING FOR THE STORM TO PASS IT’S ABOUT LEARNING HOW TO DANCE IN THE RAIN

KEEP YOUR PROMISES!

ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS, FOR ONE DAY YOU MAY LOOK BACK AND REALISE THEY WERE THE BIG THINGS

DO NOT GO WHERE THE PATH MAY LEAD  GO INSTEAD WHERE THERE IS NO PATH AND LEAVE A TRAIL 

GETTING LOST WILL HELP YOU FIND YOURSELF 

DONT GO THROUGH LIFE  GROW THROUGH LIFE 

LIFE IS A JOURNEY ENJOY IT!

DANCE LIKE NO ONE IS WATCHING  LOVE LIKE YOU’VE NEVER BEEN HURT  SING LIKE NO ONE IS LISTENING 

REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE LOVED FOE THE WAY YOU ARE  DON’T TRY TO BE DIFFERENT 

DON’T WAIT FOR THE PERFECT MOMENT TAKE THE MOMENT MAKE IT PERFECT!

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The unpublished open letter to myself

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I’ve been wanting to write this post for a while now, but to be honest I didn’t have the right words to say. Over a year or so ago, I sat down and began to write an open letter to myself titled ‘self love’, but never got around to finishing it. It all started after a messy breakup (messy doesn’t begin to describe that horror!), I felt that I needed to go all out guns blazing about the importance of loving yourself! What a cliché thing to do after a breakup, right?

I sat at my desk repeatedly reading over this unfinished letter that I desperately wanted to share with the world, you know the one that paints you as the strong woman who can make it through anything and yes, that ‘I don’t need a man!’ kind of woman. But the more I read it, the less I was convinced. Every word I was reading was motivating and moving, but yet, I didn’t believe any of it.

Even though I still don’t have all the answers, I have learnt a thing or two from when I was 19. I now recognise that the reason I couldn’t understand my own letter was because at that point I hadn’t completely loved myself or even realised what self love was. I was wearing a beautifully painted mask, that could have been easily washed away by a soft shower of rain.

Different aspects of life including places i’ve been and people I have met has played a part in finding some of the missing puzzle pieces of who I am. The picture will not be complete for many more years to come, but I must admit I am enjoying every moment of this journey.  I cannot sit here and define self love because people love differently, but I can share a few things that I think have helped me grasp the concept. So without any more delay, here are my top 4 tips to help get you on your way.

Embrace change- One thing people need to remember and what I remind myself everyday is that we never stop growing. You may know who you are now, but by this time next year you would have gone through a number of life experiences that will change you. Things that we go through in the present change us for the future, this could also change your outlook on life or it can completely change your path. Don’t be afraid of growth and development, embrace it! More often we are scared of hearing people say; “you have changed”. I personally think this is a beautiful thing, if you haven’t changed then you simply are not growing. Remember a butterfly starts of as a caterpillar and rose as a seed, don’t be afraid to blossom!

Love ALL of your flaws- We all have them, in whatever shape, size or form! There is something about yourself that you probably do not like and try to cover up. For women we try to cover up our flaws in numerous ways, by the outfits we wear, the way we do our makeup and even how we do our hair (honestly, I can go on). There’s completely nothing wrong with taking care of your appearance, but there is a difference when you do it to try to change a part of you. Begin with trying to embrace what it is you don’t like, for example if you don’t like your legs, get out of those jeans and try wearing a skirt on a hot summers day! If you don’t like your ears, wear your hair up with a smile. I guarantee it’s probably only you that put emphasis on your flaws, honestly, no one really cares! Slowly start to embrace them and eventually you will learn to LOVE them!

NEVER compare yourself to others- You probably hear this time and time again but it is very true and I will repeat it until it gets through to people! You cannot compare yourself to others, no one on God’s green earth is you! No one can walk like you, talk like you, smile like you, for heavens sakes, no one can even blink like you! So please people STOP comparing! I understand that by the way some of us are raised (*cough* my fellow Africans) It’s likely that once or twice you may hear a relative say something along the lines of; “Oh [insert name here] son has graduated and is going on to be a lawyer now, why do you insist in studying Theatre?”. Or the old famous line used on daughters over a certain age; “[Insert name here] Is married now, where is your man?”.  Some things are better ignored or taken light heartedly, as long as you are secure in yourself and know where you are going, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something that is not created for you. Just take your time and be YOURSELF!

Know your worth- If I can have a dime for every time I have heard my girlfriends say this and a dime for every time I have repeated it, then I kid you not, I would be a millionaire by now. Honestly, I actually never fully understood this phrase until recently. Knowing your worth starts from loving yourself. When you Love yourself unconditionally, you then stop putting up with all of the bullsh*t! More often than not (which is a bit sad to be honest), women and men don’t know their worth and allow themselves to be degraded. I’m actually tired of seeing Queens and Kings being walked all over by peasants! By loving yourself you will not accept such fowl treatment, seriously don’t let anyone treat you like you are ASDA smart price when you are actually worth more than Gold!

Please do not take what I have said as law, as it is only a point of view. The most beautiful thing about life is that we are still learning and growing, and no two lives are the same.

At the end of it all we are trapped with ourselves and if you do not love yourself, who will?

Young Ladies Club Networking Event

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Lola Ogunbadejo at the Young Ladies Club networking event

Young Ladies Club kicked off their year with a networking event held at the Google Campus on March 21st. The atmosphere was electric and the venue was buzzing with tons of young ladies ready to begin and share their journies towards success.

The Young Ladies Club (YLC) is a platform that seeks to empower young women in the UK. The new innovative interactive club pinpoints different areas such as entrepreneurship, education, employment and personal development. The club also uses different social media platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and YouTube to interact with their audience, as well as host social events, seminars and motivational talks.

The night included guest speakers dishing out the best advise and tips on how to seize amazing jobs, and for those who want to be their own bosses; how to become prosperous entrepreneurs and maintain successful businesses. Speakers included Catherine Arhin the Managing Director and Founder of luxury home-wear brand Arhin Armah, Jordine Bartlett Journalist for the Financial Times, Lola Ogunbadejo the Presenter of TV show ‘Out & About with Lola’ on OH TV and many more influential women.

The night was truly a success and I can speak on behalf of everyone who attended when I say, I left feeling inspired and motivated to do bigger and better things in life! I am definitely looking forward to the next event!

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You Are Not In Love, You Just Love What He Represents

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Women, are you really in love?

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not-in-love-wedding-marriage-womenYou are not in love. Let me repeat, you are not in love. I am saying this multiple times because some of you need to finally acknowledge your situations for what they really are.  Far too long many women have carried on with a relationship that shouldn’t be. You used “love” as your validation but things are not what you have presented them to be and you know it. Your agenda and/or your fears will not allow you to be real with yourself, your man, or the friends/family involved. I understand you “love” the guy as in you do care about him. Hey I love/care about everybody but I know very well that the deeper connection needed to sustain a healthy romantic relationship will not exist with everybody I “love”. So how about you confess what this is really about. Let the world know what is really motivating you to…

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Is Plastic Fantastic? #MyOpinion

Body obsessions/addictions- Plastic Surgery By Teelamb

Body obsessions/addictions- Plastic Surgery By Teelamb

Why do people spend so much money in the name of vanity? This is not Ancient Egypt where the Pharaohs and Queens had their bodies mummified in strips of fine linen and enchanted oils. The harsh reality is that people spend thousands on plastic surgery ignoring all risks just to have their bodies decay away at the end of it all.

I was watching Botched Up Bodies the other night and I thought to myself, how far would we go for the sake of vanity? For those who don’t watch the TV series, it is a documentary following people who have had horrific, (and believe me when I say horrific is an understatement) cosmetic surgery disasters. Luckily for them Britain’s top plastic surgeons are able to correct the catastrophes into something you can hardly describe as bearable.

It amazes me that people pay thousands to change their eye colour, get bigger boobs and butts, bleach their skin, liposuction etc. The worst thing about it all is that it is to try to fit into a group in society or to empress other people. Statistics produced by British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons (Baaps) concluded that there was 43,172 of top procedures performed in 2012, an increase of 0.2% on surgeries such as breast augmentation, blepharoplasty (eyelid surgery) and face/neck lift, Rhinoplasty, breast reduction and the numbers continue to rise each year. Why is it more people feel that they need to have cosmetic surgery? Is it the times we are living in, with the influence of the mass media and the idolisation of celebrities? As humans it is acceptable to feel insecure and want to change somethings but it can become an obsession and once one thing is changed we will find something else. But in saying that I do not ignore the fact that some people are forced or should I say encouraged to have plastic surgery due to certain circumstances.

The main reason for this post is to hopefully encourage everyone to make their main New Years resolution to fall in love with themselves, flaws and all! To put all your energy into bettering yourself from the inside and it will begin to show on the outside. Plastic surgery can be successful and it can also go terribly wrong and cause unnecessary complications. It is really your decision on whether it is worth it or to invest your money into something that can help you progress in life and as a person. If someone genuinely loves you they fall in love with you and what is on the inside. Remember that.

“People often say that ‘ beauty is in the eye of the beholder ,’ and I say that the most liberating thing about beauty is realising that you are the beholder. This empowers us to find beauty in places where others have not dared to look, including inside ourselves.” – Salma Hayek

 

5 Ways To Embrace Ending Friendships And Relationships- Amanda Christian

Today I came across an article that I really needed to read. The challenges of going through a breakup or coming to an end of a friendship is hard and I myself find it hard to see any positivity from it. After reading an article by Amanda Christian I began see how it can be a positive thing and why an end of a relationship can be a start of a new beginning.

Anyways ladies and gentlemen here is the article written by Amanda Christian, enjoy!

“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie

One day when I was a kid, my best friend and I decided that we were going to bury a time capsule in the backyard. We gathered an old shoebox, some glitter, and paint and then spent the whole afternoon decorating this box that was the symbol of our best friend status for life.

We filled it with some of our favorite items and pictures and then wandered around the yard in order to scope out the perfect location to bury our sacred box. We dug what we thought was a deep hole, placed the box inside, and covered it up.

We made a pact to dig the box up together in five years.

Not even five days passed before we were sprinting toward our special spot to dig up our friendship, only to discover someone had beaten us to it. As it turns out, my brother and his friend were watching from behind a tree as we buried the box a few days prior. Curiosity got the best of them.

Unpredictable circumstances altered the outcome of our time capsule, just like growing up and having different interests altered the outcome of our friendship.

Where did my childhood friend and I go wrong? We were supposed to be best friends for life. Life I say!

Or maybe we didn’t go wrong. Maybe friendships and intimate relationships come with an expiration date of sorts.

I’ve had many friendships I thought would last my whole life, but life surprised me, as it often does. As I look back, each friend or relationship that I’ve had made perfect sense for me that time in my life.

I believe people are brought together for each person’s maximum spiritual growth. When the growth is done, it’s time to move on.

That spiritual growth could take two minutes, two weeks, two months, two years, or a lifetime. Either way, when the time comes, the most powerful thing we can do is allow ourselves to move on and trust that everything is happening exactly as it should.

Sometimes outside circumstances seemingly force our relationships to shift and move apart; other times it’s a decision you consciously make to walk away. However it happens, below are some ways you can move through changing relationships in the most positive and powerful way possible:

1. Don’t be afraid.

As you learn and grow, so do your friendships and relationships. I really noticed this when I started committing to a spiritual practice everyday. My circle of friends completely shifted. This is nothing to fear.

It’s not a “good” or “bad’ thing, but it’s important to understand that throughout our lives, people are going to fall away. And who knows, they might be back, but all you do know now is that you’ve learned all that you can from each other at this time.

When relationships and/or friendships end or shift, there is nothing to fear. Whether or not you realize it, everything always works out the way it’s meant to.

2. Take responsibility.

If the break-up was messy, or the friendship ended in a not so positive way, take responsibility for it. When you get to the point where you no longer blame someone else for how you feel, miraculous shifts occur.

I often turn to my inner guide, the voice for love within me, and ask, “What is the spiritual lesson here?” Your power is always hidden behind the people and circumstance that disturb you the most.

As some of my recent friendships evolved and fell away, I’ve discovered areas within myself that needed to be healed. The purpose of the relationship or the friendship was to show me those areas. Relationships can be amazing tools that catapult us to another level of peace and love.

3. Trust that you always have everyone you need.

This tiny idea can bring massive amounts of peace to your day. What if you woke up every morning knowing that every person you needed that day would be brought to you?

I try and start my day with this idea because I immediately stop trying to control my reality, and instead, trust in my inner guidance a whole lot more.

There is no one missing from this moment whom you need right now. If you’re sitting in a chair with no other bodies around, that’s because in this moment, your soul does not need anyone else to learn from.

4. Get ready for new friendships and relationships.

When you create the space for friendships and relationships that are not working to fall away, get ready, because new people who are more in-line with what your soul most needs to learn are on their way! This only becomes a fearful process when you forget that you’re always guided and that everything happens for you, not to you.

5. Release your guilt.

As I got more and more committed to praying, connecting to my true self, and meditating, I felt deep in my heart it was time for me to make some shifts in my outer world. That decision involved moving across the entire country, far away from family and all my friends.

At first, a few of my close friends couldn’t understand why I was leaving, and for a brief moment I felt guilty about it. But I had to follow my path and trust that new people and experiences were on their way.

Other people may not understand why you’re making the decision to move on, but that doesn’t matter. You can’t control what other people think. Always trust your heart and never feel guilty for it.

No matter what, remember that every encounter is holy. Every person is a reflection of you. As you change, move, and grow, the reflections around you also change. Embrace them!

There is no need to fearfully cling to relationships and friendships that are not working anymore. Rather, get excited about the new ones that are surely on their way. All changes are helpful.

Help save a life

Please read details and join the event to help save a life

Please read details and join the event to help save a life

Hey everyone, This evening (Wednesday 20th Nov) between 6pm and 6.30pm on ITV’s London Tonight television programme, an urgent bone marrow appeal will be made on behalf of 24 year old Kevin Kararwa. He is a 24 year old Business Systems student, who studied at University of Portsmouth for 3 years and lives in Morden, South London. Kevin will be making an appearance on the show, from his hospital bed highlighting his urgent need to find a donor. Please help promote Kevin’s appeal and his interview on ITV London Tonight from your email, facebook, twitter and all social networking sites. Thank You

#Health: Be a hero

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Hi all,

Please take the time out to read this message.

Unfortunately a close friend and relative of mine was diagnosed with Leukaemia last year. After fighting for his life he recovered early this year but has suffered from a relapse and is back in hospital. This week he received bad news from the doctor that they have not found a bone marrow match yet and sadly time is running out.

There is a lack of bone marrow donors within our black community and this is an issue that we chose to ignore. Donating bone marrow does not hurt but people are still frightened by the subject. I am urging everyone to read more and educate yourselves on the issue. By donating you can save so many peoples lives including my cousins.

Find out more and register on the Anthony Nolan website

Please share this message and spread the word!

#LetsDiscuss: Does fashion lack ethnic diversity?

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We are all hypnotised into loving the greater things in life, the glamorous lifestyle of Chanel, Burberry, Gucci to name some of many. Delivered to us by the bright lights and 8inch heels worn by the broad, beautiful models dominating the catwalk, in the magazines and adverts. With all the glamour and dream being sold there is one thing that does not go unnoticed, the lack of ethnic diversity within fashion.

Numerous models have voiced there concerns about the lack of diversity within the fashion industry. In a recent interview 22 year old British Supermodel Jourdan Dunn spoke to net-a-porter and claims that racism in the fashion industry is very still alive. In the interview with the online fashion publication Dunn expressed issues that she has faced as a young black model.  She has been turned back from a casting before because the client “didn’t want any more black girls”.

she has also faced problems once on a photo shoot, she speaks about when a make up artist announced that she didn’t want to work on Jourdan’s face because she was white and Jourdan was black.

As models are raising their concerns on the lack of diversity and are hoping for times to change, Johnson Gold the editor of PAUSE, gives his insight on working within the fashion industry. “I work with white, Asian and black people and we all seem to get along, I haven’t witnessed any racism.”

PAUSE magazine is a free online male fashion magazine also released four times a year available to order in print.  The magazine promotes youthful, stylish and influential products for males.

Johnson goes on to explain. “Racial debates about which colour model to use for specific photo shoots comes up and does become quite stereotypical in fashion. I think it’s a choice of race for particular clothing, photo shoots or anything else- sometimes people wouldn’t think its an issue but race is a decision making process in the fashion industry.” He also adds “There isn’t no problems but there is quite a lot of stereotypes that are being associated with particular races.” One question that lingers is, isn’t there enough choice of different races to pick for these photo shoots? Statistics show the diversity in ethnicity within some of the top UK modelling agencies.

When it comes to the decision of what race should be used in a photo shoot, it should be carefully considered and not manipulated. French Numero Magazine failed to do this when a spread titled ‘African Queens’ outraged the public. The photographer Sebastian Kim used a young white girl with blonde hair and blue eyes with her face painted black. The fact her face was painted black triggered a lot of questions about the fashion industry. Did they fail to find a black model to play the part of the African queen? Or couldn’t they have just left the model with her natural skin colour.

One of the worlds biggest fashion weeks, New York fashion week statistics taken by Jezebel.com yearly show the lack of ethnic diversity from 2008 to a recent date. With the findings of over 9 years  it is clear to see that the lack of ethnic diversity within fashion remains at a stand still.